My poor baby! My Jason!

[Jasmine 0]

I just called out mutual friend and she told me that Jason was telling her about something bad that happened in his family. I don't know all the details because she still had him on the other line. Please pray that he finds comfort in God.

[Jasmine 0]

I just found out that Jason is an alcoholic. He's afraid his kidneys are damaged. His grades are down and his mother is threatening to send him to live with his father who wanted to put him up for adoption when he was born (that's why his parents are divorced). Plus his older brother is leaving the house soon.

[Cholette 0]

[Jasmine 0]

Jason told our mutual friend that he loves me (I doubt he actually loves me because we are pretty young) and he doesn't want to tell me because he's afraid that I'll judge him (which I can't because some of my family members either have been addicted or are addicted to something. Also, I have been addicted to porn and anything sex-related.) He wants to get better. He wants to change. He said he wants to get better before he gets into a relationship with me. But I'm not allowed to date til I'm 18 (I'm a very protected princess). He's gone through a lot. He has lots of scars on his arms from self-harm. He carries cigarettes in his bag so obviously he smokes them. He wants to get better. When he told our mutual friend, he was sobbing so much. I want him to trust me and to trust that I won't desert him. I know I can't fix him or save him, but I want him to know that he isn't alone. I have gone through a lot to and the worst part about was that I was very lonesome. To this day, I struggle with going to people when I am at my worst. That has only made it worse. That is by far the last thing that I want him to go through - loneliness. When I was told about everything he's going through, I posted a song on his wall on Facebook about seeing another person's pain and telling them that they'll be there for them. I said it was from my heart. He hasn't seen it yet. Anyways, how do I help him trust me? He's the type to share his feelings so that shouldn't be too hard. How do I help him at all?

[astra 0]

Dear Jasmine,
here are my suggestions for you, please toss what does not sit well with you.
Don't worry about him knowing that you know :-). Just lift him up to the Lord in prayer. If he is not saved, pray for his salvation. The Lord is in charge of his soul anyway. If he is saved, just keep praying for the renewal of his mind. Pray Ephesians 3:17-21 over him (putting his name into the scriptures) and in the eyes of your mind imagine him in manifestation of this prayer. Pray the same ond yourself also daily.

I'd aslo strongly suggest so stop saying and even thinking that you are addicted to porn and anything else that is not of Christ. When you got saved you've became a NEW CREATION: "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new" 2 Corinthians 5:17. These are not just beautiful words, this IS the reality for YOU. You are daughter of God. His Son Jesus has paid a very dear price to redeem you from any bondage of sin. So that means that whatever stronghold WAS in you previously driving you to addiction HAS BEEN BROKEN forever. You did not do this. Jesus did! That means only one thing - you don't have to strive to overcome the addiction. Ask Jesus to show you this truth, to reveal it to your heart and mind that you may enjoy it.
So whatever is left is just your mind and soulish habits that need to be renewed. And again, let Jesus do this work in you. So even every time you turn your eyes to porn or your mind to those thoughts, just boldly proclaim "I AM THE RIGHTEOUS OF GOD! My Lord Jesus has paid the perfect price for me to be FREE from this and therefore I AM free from it. I command my mind to be renewed and get in line with the word of God that says that I am a new creation in Christ Jesus! Praise God!". You'll see how fast this old habit will leave you. Praise God! And whatever you do do not let any condemnation into your heart (Romans 8:1)!!!

[Jasmine 0]

Thx. But also I said I WAS addicted. Past tense, but thx. I honestly feel like I should do more than just pray. I don't think he has anyone in his life that truly knows God. His friends drink and smoke like he does and our mutual friend, although she is catholic, she really doesn't have that strong of a relationship and she wants to desert him almost. His older brother is a bad example. His mom threatened to ship him off to his dad who actually lives in Connecticut.

[astra 0]

Oh, sorry! My mistake. But this is just awesome!! Praise God.
Regarding "just praying" though, praying is not simply "saying words", it's giving the control over the situation to Jesus who is going to the a much better job that we could ever possibly do anyway :-). By this I don't mean stay uninvolved by any means. Do whatever the Holy Spirit leads you to do. But from my own experience I can tell that while I was lifting up a person, the Lord changed circumstances so that He lead us to the very perfect people who that person listened to and got changed from the inside. With other words He will bring the perfect laborers across the world if need be to get the job done fast :-)
This laborer in his life might be you might not. But Jesus knows who this is.
Another point of this "giving all control over to Jesus" is, all this will happen effortlessly :-) Kind of "by itself". So don't torment yourself with all these questions as to how to help. Things will simply start happening :-) God's in control.
And again, I'm very sorry for my mistake.

[Jasmine 0]

Its okay. Thx. Idk but I am not trying to fix him but help him understand that he needs a relationship with Christ. Plus I feel like I have some part in helping him cause our mutual friend was supposed to go to my school, but at the last minute she changed to a school near Jason's school and they met on the bus. Also, I had prayed that his addiction would get better. His urine is red because he is bleeding internally and he didnt flush the toilet and his mom saw it and took him to the ER. He told the doctors that he was an alcoholic. The doctors told him that his kidneys are damaged and he could get diabetes. His mom knows now and now he is being watched like a hawk. Yay! Thx for your help but also how do i approah him about it.