Tkay 0 Posted December 11, 2008 I have a situation I have been praying over and every time I come to some peace about it, I get in turmoil. I was doing okay and believing God to be in control of it all. I had a dream last night and I woke up in turmoil over it and was not at peace anymore. This is kinda long, but I feel that the background is needed for better understanding. The situation is this. I was dating a guy that pursued me. I did not want to get anything started because I was okay and did not want to get hurt again. We have alot of the same friends and are close to them all. They were all telling me what a great guy he is and I found out that he had even asked for help from a mutual friend to help win me over. Well we dated for a month and 1/2. I was starting to like him and starting to let my guard down. Even his closest friends thought that he was really liking me. I know enough about the guy to know he has been terribly hurt in the past, by several relationships. Well things seemed to be going along nicely and then all of a sudden he says this ain't gonna work. He gave me no reason other than I have done nothing wrong and he wasn't mad, just didn't think it would work. Everyone was shocked by this and how he has handled everything. He has done everything right the opposite of what we ALL thought. This has all been about 2 weeks ago now. Well our close friends were hoping that he would rethink things and come around. He did give a reason to them and it was kinda lame. My sister n law grew up with him and says he is like a brother to her, but she was very disappointed in the way he has done things. She made the comment that maybe I would be a good influence on him as far as going to church and everything. I will not say I am perfect and do the right things all the time, but after I got to know him a little more, I felt that maybe we could really help each other in the way of building up and trusting, and hopefully be good friends. I was told by him and others that he didn't bring just anyone around his daughter unless he thought it might be something with this person. Well at this point he had already brought her around me. He seemed concerned at times that I would hold somethings against him, by the way some of this family was acting. It wasn't that big of a deal to me and I told him not to worry about it. He said well okay. All of his actions seemed to indicate he was really liking me and all. As soon as I let my guard down, BOOM! He is gone. I was not trying to rush anything because like I said I didnt' want to start anything to begin with. Alot of friends seemed to think that he just scared himself and ran the other direction. I felt like he couldn't get away from me fast enough. Then I heard a few days ago he was hanging around some other girl. Well I don't want to be stupid here, but my gut was telling me he was starting to have feelings and that isn't what he wanted or wasn't ready for. But HE PURSUED ME, not the other way around. Yes, if he is going to do this then he is not for me I understand. Well I was praying about all of this from the beginning. Now I am praying for understanding. I would be more apt to think he was just looking for a casual thing if his actions were different. Well this was put to me. He needs God and he has been terribly hurt. He is running from his feelings and from God, but doesn't know that he is running. I scared him and he didn't like it, so he went to someone else that didn't threaten him. I dont' know. After talking to some friends and learning some other things, I felt better and came to the conclusion that he is just a scared man, afraid to open his heart and will only go so far with emotions. I was feeling much better about things, including the fact that he was already seeing someone else. Then this morning I had a dream. I had to give some people a ride some where, including him. He didn't say anything and I didn't either. He just got in the back seat and never said anything. Then I let them out, he got in his truck which was attached to a trailer and left. There were some pictures that belonged to both of us and he was to take half of them, but forgot to get them. I told my mother that he was going to have to get them from me and if he knew that. She said Dad told him and he said that didn't matter. I looked up to see him turning around to come back and get them. I said to her, he just didn't care at all did he? She said no he didn't. Again I had the feeling that he was running just as far and as fast as he could, but it kinda upset me that we said he didn't care. I woke up in turmoil and was wondering why there was such turmoil. If this is God telling me this guy's true feelings and that was the end of it, then why didn't I just have a peace in knowing that was all and to just get on with it. I thought when God put a stop to it or shut a door, that was that and you just knew. Or could Satan be messing with me because I did have some peace about it. I know the guy needs prayer and I pray for him, even though I got hurt. Anyone have any thoughts of any kind? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dove-Solutions 0 Posted December 12, 2008 In answer to your initial question. No satan cannot give us a dream. He can however interject thoughts trying to make us believe he gave us the dream. We know he is a liar and a thief so just keep trusting the Lord and you will be fine.For the rest of the dream. It could be here that you are unsettled about what happened. You may have accepted it and have a peace about it but there were still some hurt feelings. I would ask the Lord to show you if you are still holding on to some feelings about that and ask Him to take any hurt, bitterness, resentment away. I think it is awesome that you pray for him and I would continue to pray blessings into his life. When God closes a door, the door is closed and when he opens a door the door is open. But we have a choice to walk through those doors whether God closes them or opens them. I always ask the Lord to show me an open or closed door like I am 2 so I don't miss the message. I want to make sure I am walking in the direction He has asked or instructed me to go. Trust God and He will show you that direction. I pray this has been of help to you.Love in Jesus,Connie :cmere: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dove-Solutions 0 Posted December 17, 2008 Your welcome TKay anytime. Love in Jesus, Connie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites