same topic as before but different slant

[Delightful soul 0]

Hi all,

I am wondering what to do in a situation with a man I have been chatting on line with.

He is a christian and we really enjoy chatting but I really don't want to get emotionally close but He is so sure I could be the one. He has not said it outright but hinted and I am concerned cause I have been in emotional friendships online and have been hurt in the past. It is so difficult to find men in the church and I am enjoying these chats but know that I could be spending time more constructively and I am at a point in my walk with God where I really hunger to spend time with him. Am I being cynical for being sus about this online dating thing or am I on the right track?

I'm really wanting love, but don't want to act desperate either.

Could someone please shed some light on here for me? It is so hard when it is your own personal life it is easier to give advice to others but yeah...harder to see it for your own life.

[Cholette 0]

This is what I would say to you Little One. The fact that you are not sure what to do leads me to believe you know what to do. This is how I know to leave something alone...when I don't have peace about it. The Bible says in Colossians 3:15 (AMP)...And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ's] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].

When something is of God, the peace that the Holy Spirit leaves in our hearts is undeniable. If you are in question all of the time, then that is a red flag. If I were you, I would go before the Lord and leave this at the altar. We all can advise you to do all types of things, but in the end, you have to be the one that has the peace in your heart.

I personally don't see anything wrong with dating anyone online, HOWEVER, it has to be God directed and LOTS of discernment is needed. I read your other post that is similar to this and the questions you had concern me. God has your answer my sister...go to Him and let him lead you because his love for you is immeasurable. Once you tap into HIS LOVE for you, it will be hard for you to accept just any love...it will help direct you to the person who is open to allow God's love to flow through them to you.

Be blessed and I've prayed for you...expect God to speak.

[Delightful soul 0]

I have made some big changes on line and know God has spoken. I have ended all contact with this man as I feel that the Lord wanted me to.

I know for me that He wants me to meet a man in person and start a friendship if there is to be someone for me as a partner in life.

But more than anything, Jesus is jealous for my heart and I know that whatever is taking up my time and drawing me away from Him is an idol. SO many things in my life God is working on right now, and I know He is wanting me to focus on my destiny in Him. Maybe this sounds really strict but I know there are certain things that have been stopping me from devoting my heart totally to the Lord.

Thankyou for your words of encouragement. I really appreciated them, very much so.

God bless you Cholette and I pray that I be able to encourage others on here, as lately things have all been about me of late and I have not felt like giving to others as much, and I hate not being capable of ministering to others.

Thanks again....