Tolos2009 0 Posted March 31, 2009 I have been separated for about two years and half years since the death of my father. I have lived in a non-intimate relationship with my husband for about one year and half. I had allowed some very terrible things to occur in our marriage because I really wanted to be with him so I just let him do pretty much of anything that he wanted to do. I allowed him to cheat on me on two occasions and I just turned my eye. I put myself in a compromising position with God and I have since repented for the deeds in my marriage. I honestly believed for some time that I was suppose to stay with him - u know for better or for worse. I had been told by my pastor to get a divorce but I ignored him and didnt. I am in counseling right now and it is really helping me to get my life together. My husband wants me to get back with him but I dont trust him or myself for that matter. So he has given me an ultimatum. He believes that I am wrong and that I am not hearing from God and that i should take him back and accept him for better or for worse. He is asking me to put him first above my mom and children. I think he also thinks he comes before GOD too. I on the other hand do not believe that it is God's will for me to be in a relationship where i will risk all and do all for a man. I have so grown through God';s grace that I am different. I am able to say no, I am able to say that isnt right and I am able to stand on my own. But I dont want God to be mad at me if I dont get back with him. I dont believe God wants me to be a doormat. My self esteem is better and self image is better too. Please pray for me as I am praying for myself that I make the right decision for my life and that I have a peace about it and Gods assurance that I am doing his will and not my own. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ThisIsSparta 0 Posted March 31, 2009 you should leave him. God does NOT want you to be in a relationship with someone who DEMANDS that you hold him to a higher esteem than God. that's an alarm going off in my mind type situation. something's just not right. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jodi 0 Posted March 31, 2009 Tolos, The Bible says that there are rules for when it's permissible to divorce and adultery is the reason for divorce. This scripture was written so that men could write a decree of divorce to a woman who committed adultery. It doesn't say that women can, but that was when women had next to no rights at all. Do a search on biblegateway.com to find the specific Scripture so you can read it in context. - Jodi Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jadams 0 Posted March 31, 2009 You have choice Tolos... You first need to decided what you want. I was cheated on by my husband and because the covenant was broken and another woman/women was involved, it couldn't work for us. God doesn't want you unhappy. I'm not saying to leave him, but what I am saying is God doesn't hold a gun to your head and make you stay in something where there is no peace...He left us peace as a gift. I will pray with you that God will lead and guide you...speak to you in the inner most parts of your heart and give you peace with the right decision. Blessings to you my sister! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jadams 0 Posted March 31, 2009 By the way...God will NOT be mad at you no matter the decision that you make. That is condemnation and that is not of Him. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jadams 0 Posted March 31, 2009 By the way...God will NOT be mad at you no matter the decision that you make. That is condemnation and that is not of Him. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dove-Solutions 0 Posted March 31, 2009 My advise to you is to go to the Father first. Pray and wait for the answer. When you are sure you have the answer......do not hesitate to do what the Lord would ask. He will give you all the strength and love you through it all. The enemy would have you to feel guilty but Jesus died so you are free from shame and condemnation. Love in Jesus,Connie :cmere: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
