marriage decision /protection of my 14 yr old son

[Tolos2009 0]

I have been separated three years from my husband and on an occasion when I decided to go back to him. God commanded me to wait in a dream. Since that day, my husband doesnt believe the dream is from God and is now in my opinion giving me an ultimatum. I am still do not have a 100 percent peace about us getting back together. So tonight he explained to me how he was feeling and that he doesnt believe (short version) that God has to tell me what to do, he says all I have to do is get back with him if i love him and want to be with him. I believe differently. I believe because we have had sooooo many problems in our marriage that we need to hear the voice of God to tell us what to do and how to approach our restoration. I do love him despite what has happened but i also dont want to be a fool. I am looking for change such as he is no longer drinking/and going to church doesnt have to be our church, he can go to any church that has Jesus in it and that he is not emotionally mean to me. He is honest with me and says that he will stop drinking 50%, he may go to church 50% and that the emotional stuff will only stop when he and I are together working towards that common goal. So my questions to God are how do I know? Do i take him back regardless to whether or not he has changed or not? He may have changed and I just dont know it? I am still confused but i dont want to be disobedient either if God is really saying that he will restore and that he wants me to get back with him now.

I also need prayer for my son. My son is 14 and is facing a series of issues that have confronted him and are proving to be dangerous. My son attended a going away party for a young girl that he has know since nursery school who is going to boarding school for high school. At the party, she showed more attention to him than her exboyfriend and apparently he was mad. The party happenend in July. On friday, september 19th, my son attended a catholic school dance that he was invited too and while at the dance, the boy from the party in july bumped him. My son did not immediately recognize the boy but the boy knew who my son was. The boy is large in size and somewhat towers over my son. my son bumped him back. Words were exchanged. The party ended.
On saturday, september 20th, my son was sent a facebook message by this book and showed the message to me and it said "hey b" I dont want to be your friend but you almost got you behind (not the word) kicked at the dance. My son did not respond to the facebook message.

To me this a sign of a huge problem and I believe that it is getting out of hand. We only know the boys name as Marqui/Marquis or Amira's exboyfriend. So I have been praying for divine protection, both spiritually and physically. My son senses danger but doesnt really know what to do as he cant remember what the boy looks like and he is concerned and trying not to be afraid. God told me to fast. So I began my fast yesterday and I am asking for prayer as well. My son's name is Aaron.

Thank you.

[dreamster 0]

no peace no reconciliation,,very simple,, D

[lola21st 2]

I agree, follow the God's leading as you have been doing...if you don't feel peace over the situation, don't move forward. Continue fasting and praying until you hear from God on the matter. Your husband sounds like he's trying to manipulate you with the ultimatum. If you don't see tangible changes for an extended period of time, don't go back as nothing in your relationship will change. He has to make concrete changes to show that he is committed to the marriage. Don't compromise on those key items, no drinking and going back to church. And continue to cover him in prayer.

I will pray for both situations.

[Cholette 0]

I agree with the others. You CANNOT go back at this time. He is emotionally abusive and abusive people tend to be controling and manipulative. It's amazing to me how they all do the same thing. That let's you know that there is an evil spirit in operation here. He has to show a LONG consistent change in his life and even when THAT happens, God still needs to let you know IF you can go back. It's amazing to me how he says that the emotional stuff will stop once the two of you get together and work on it together...WHAT??? No...HE has the problem so HE needs to get HIMSELF together before any reconciliation can be considered. Alcoholism is a horrible thing and it's hard to break outside of God. I think you and your son need to stay where you are.

Like Dreamster said, 'No peace, No reconciliation". God has already been telling you what to do by NOT giving you peace so please listen. I have shared a scripture here plenty of times and once again, I will share it here.

And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ's] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always. Colossians 3:15 AMP

As far as your son is concerned, being a mother of a son myself, the only thing you can do is pray and entrust him into the hand of the Lord. Since God told you to fast, evidently He is going to give you some instructions. It's rough to contol what goes on outside of the home when you are not around. The only thing you can do is pray and trust that God handles the situation...and He will...he always does.

[princessdelia 0]

Please think of ur son& don't consider going back unless u want ur son to become a monster. Pray& commit ur ur son to God and annoit him for divine protection. Focus on ur son now and pray 4 the dad's soul. The man is controlled by an evil spirit and u cant be around that. He will harm u both if given the chance. I am blunt cos I'm in a similar situation so i know what u r going thru

[dreamster 0]

,,,the big guns hav spoken,,