Wisdom neeeded still

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I felt like I did my best today. Although I was tired and had some physical challenges related to the pregnancy (bad rash and swollen feet)I organized laundry, deep cleaned the bathoom and tonight helped my husband order business supplies. Dr. told me baby is unlikely to be born this week.

I was very encouraged because he told me he stopped working with someone who had been vebally abusive to him after her confronted that person and basically asked him to stop and the man refused.
He is working on his own and has work coming in. I was very happy about that as that man was a bad influence on him.

Then when I was in bed all of a sudden he came into the room was angry and said I was deceptive bought a car he didn't want and said I didn't put the registration in his name also.
I said I got out of bed to help you with the advertising and now I am very tired.
He said "you really are a b*****"

I had not done anything with the registration because I felt no peace from God about it
My little daughter was in bed with me.

How would I feel if I had put his name on the car and then he said that to me?
He has not been to but one dr's appointment with me or even held my hand since we found out about the baby.

Also the reason why I did not put the car in his name was that he has treated me very badly for 2 years and tried to buy a house last year and he said he was putting it only in his name.
He owns a rental property he bought prior to our marriage that is only in his name.

I have been open to adding his name and also to having him in the delivery room if it was God's will and now feel no peace about either.
I really want to just have some supportive women friends in the delivery room this time. Help!

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um by ther fruit u shall know them,,....ugh sweety,,

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um a sad report indeed,,

[Lori 0]

Justblueskies, I will lift you up in prayer! Just keep pressing into God!

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Thank you. The effectual fervant prayers of the righteous availeth much!

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At this moment
Pray for those that despite you,did wrong to you and use you.
Be at peace with every man if possible,Forgive one another the offences and do not hold any grievances against any.
In order for the restoring power of God to be manifested in all life
We are the one that need to obey God.
But for now Be at peace, Do not think a lot.
Don't get angry,so your blood pressure don't raise.
Think in the baby's well beign.
Relax and trust the Lord , He is in control.
Do not get depress for this circumstances,Allow the Lord to be the healer.
If you hold anything against him you will give the devil to have a valid claim.
And the liberation process will take longer than it should.
Remember Father forgive ours trespasses as we forgive those that tresspass against us.
Because if we love those that love us what difference are we making.
How much do you think is a soul worth?
God will do what He needs to do to save him.
But on your side be at peace.
All will go well with you. The enemy use the emotions to stay around ,get rid of the negative emotions no matter what you hear at this moment allow the peace of Jesus to enter your heart.
I know is not easy but believe me is the best for you and the childrens.
Honor your God and He shall honor you.
Interceeding for someone is always a harsh battle.
Whoever here had done this will understand clearly what I mean with this.
Sister what report are we going to believed?
No weapon formed against you shall prosper,But be perfect like your father in heaven is perfect.
acknowledge the Lord in all your ways and all will be well with you.
May the Lord Bless You and keep You.
The love wounds are the most deep ones,remember Jesus he came to his ones and they despised Him,Say lies about him,Falsely accussed him and at the end Killed him.
But He knew the price you have to pay to liberated and restored what is stolen and lost.
It is not easy always but the Lord,does great things.
I speak the peace of God over you and home.
And command in the name of Jesus that angels will be with you on your labor table directing the doctors on your case.
Blessed be the Lord that visited your home one more time.
God is faithful and merciful.
May this child consolidate the peace you had sought for long time.
And harmony ,peace and prosperity only dwells in your home.
May the name of God never depart from your generation and May the Holy one of Israel bring you to your destiny and purpose.
In Jesus Name.

[Cholette 0]

I'm the wrong person in the world to answer whether he should be in the delivery room or not because I was faced with the same question. I wasn't married to my son's father and he wasn't around my entire pregnancy. The day I go into labor and after I went to the hospital, he calls my parents house and my dad tells him that I'm at the hospital giving birth...OUT OF ALL OF THE DAYS HE COULD HAVE CALLED!!!

He went to the hospital and I was still in labor and he was there...I was OUTRAGED!! I had so much animosity in my heart towards him. It was time to deliver and I told the nurse not to let him into the birthing room. I will never forget her words that came out of her mouth, "sweety, he's the father, he needs to be in there"... The pain was too intense for me to argue back...it was probably God's way of saying 'girl, close your mouth and just give birth please'. So there he was, in the delivery room...something I felt in my heart that only those who appreciated what was about to happen, deserved to see (I had my cousin and my best friend in there at the time).

Anyway, I was an evil woman in there with all of that pain so in my mind I felt like he had to pay so the nurse told him to hold my hand while I was pushing...THAT'S IT... ...I knew how to make him pay. I began to press my fingernails into his skin to inflict as much pain on him as I could. Afterall, I was in pain...I didn't know what I was doing, right? I put my nails so deep into his skin that it drew blood. He had the scars on his arm until the day he died 15 years ago.

This may be a demented story to your question, but it's a true story. I won't answer your question for you, but I will say this...in those moments of delivery, it's all about you and the baby. It's not about anyone else in the room. The two of you are the center of attention. It won't matter if he's in there because, the baby is still going to come regardless. Don't allow your emotions to go where mine did. It was BEFORE CHRIST for me, but now that you are IN CHRIST...raise your level of love above the way your husband is acting just for the few moments (hopefully) of delivery. God may need this opportunity to open his eyes to some things...ya know?

I hope in SOME way this helped you. It may not be what you want to hear, but ultimately it will be YOUR decision whether he's in there or not.

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Anyway, I was an evil woman in there with all of that pain so in my mind I felt like he had to pay so the nurse told him to hold my hand while I was pushing...THAT'S IT... ...I knew how to make him pay. I began to press my fingernails into his skin to inflict as much pain on him as I could. Afterall, I was in pain...I didn't know what I was doing, right? I put my nails so deep into his skin that it drew blood.

Gurrrrrrrrrrrl, YOU are a mess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

justblueskies, I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you. But I must say this one thing because I have gone through it myself. Verbal abuse is far more painful than physical. I've gone through both. Being beaten (physically), the bruises heal and the pain from the force of a fist making contact to your body leaves after a while. I can be reminded of a hit and I may even have a scar to prove it but the pain that came along with it is no longer there. Words? Words cut deeper than a sword does. I can think about some of the things he said to me...the things he called me; and to this day those very words pierce my heart. God has healed me from the pain of ALL of it. But sometimes you know how we can remember our life and all we've gone through? That's how it is for me now...not re-living the pain...just remembering it and thanking God for delivering me out of it.

You know it had gotten so bad that I would rather be beaten than for him to speak to me the way he did. I didn't deserve either but at least the pain from the licks, the busted lips, the bruises would soon go away. But the words...oh, those words...the pain behind those words are undescribable.

I didn't deserve it. You don't deserve it. Your kids don't deserve it.

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Cholette- thank you for your honesty. I get your point it doesn't really matter if he is or isn't there as long as God is there!

Virtuous- I am sorry for what you went through.Thankful you got away from that. He must have many demons. I guess I am most angry that he would say evil things like that in front of my innocent daughter.
The words don't hurt me because I see them as coming from a wounded soul -someone who has been abused.

MB -Thank you.
Because if we love those that love us what difference are we making.How much do you think is a soul worth? get rid of the negative emotions no matter what you hear at this moment allow the peace of Jesus to enter your heart.
I know is not easy but believe me is the best for you and the childrens.

I am going to get some exercise today and hopefully get rid of the negative emotions maybe shop for some clothes. I am going to focus on God.This is a test to do what is right.

[Cholette 0]

You got it girl!!!!

After you have the baby and after you recover...you need to REALLY think about what you really want. Do you want to live the rest of your life being harassed by someone who is wounded? Do you want your children to be subjected to such abuse? These are some questions you should answer when this season of new mommyhood is over because if not, you will continue to be tormented by his antics. Remember, Jesus came that you may have LIFE and have it more abundantly!

Just a little advice to balance everything out!

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How would I feel if I had put his name on the car and then he said that to me?

I don't think this would make a difference if what he says don't hurt you. But if you say it doesn't then it doesn't. I can't say the guy I'm speaking of had many demons but I do know that, just as your husband, he was wounded. Even with that being true, it gave him no right to do what he did.

It may not hurt you but you can believe it's hurting your daughter and if YOU don't make it right for her, YOU will see your life being played out right before YOUR very eyes through her!

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Thank you again.

Virtuous- I guess what I meant was that I feel detached from him. Not "in love" with someone who is unkind.

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My husband said he would watch our child while I went to the hospital to have the baby.I feel better about his watching her than his family so I said yes. I did surrender this to God so am thinking it is His will.

[Cholette 0]

Amen...so be it!