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it might have been rudolf in the sleigh! just kidding........... GOd is good and I like everyones response......... Maybe it could also be something that will catch your attention in the future, but you will have to pray on that for sure......... Bless you!

i wanted to thankyou for what you had to say Lola, it was very encouraging. My friend and I got alot out of it and want to praise God for such wisdom - Godly wisdom that came from you. Claire

that is totally understandable. I hope and pray that you find peace with this issue. If you are imagining your future husband and thinking of men and placing them in your mind, then maybe you need to give this up to the Lord. Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself above the Lord and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. I need to do this too. WE can win this fight and get victory in His name. This forum is good for anonymity. But sometimes it pays to confess your thoughts to someone in leadership in the physical too.......... Bless you, Claire

oh no i have read some of the other posts, please don't be offended by what i have written and go to God with all I have said! This is my firm belief, however I know it will contradict others and may offend. So please all forgive me if I have offended you with my opinion in this very sensitive matter.

Hi I haven't read all the posts here, but i read your first one mainly and I want to encourage you matey that to me it is a normal part of life, however, what we think upon is what we should be monitoring. Tell you what, next time you are "tempted" give it to God and ask Him how to keep your thoughts pure.... There is such debate about whether it is right or wrong in christian circles and all I can say is that I believe I would have married the wrong guy had i not done it.... You see so many people get married out of sexual frustration these days when they have nothing much else in common but sex and perhaps this is why so many marriages in the church end up in divorce. Who can say for sure? Just be honest with God and give your desires to Him and watch how he will keep you from going down the wrong track with your mind. That is my encouragment to you mate. You have been so honest here with us, have you tried being honest in front of Jesus during those times? He is everywhere hey so He knows you are doing it! The enemy for some reason likes to pervert sex and maybe the reason you are turning to masturbation so much is because you crave intimacy and love??? The movies make out that sex is all a lead up to intimacy these days and well, it is part of it in marriage but not as much as a walk in the park together or a swim in the ocean, a nice long face to face chat, or even a non sexual massage. WE are creatures of touch and crave connection with others..........maybe there are some non- sexual ways you can receive comfort and intimacy for you matey. Pray about this, I have been as open as I can be and if this does not resonate with you, please ignore what I have said. Bless you so much for I know the struggle you are facing more than you will ever know! :cute:

yeah hislightbeam had alot of wosdom to impart and well Viles comments were funny...... you know God knows we have desires and if we seek Him first I am sure we will n ot have to ignore the diamond........ JUst been to a wedding where I was bridesmaid last night and it was done the right way......my friend had had an aweful time with her ex and then a year later found MR right...........so don't completley swing the pendulem Vile, God does not want you to ditch your desires, just prioritise them! I wish life was like a box of chocolates, but i really think that we get what we believe for in life.......so if we believe for a husband then I gather we must be patient along the way........Vile be patient mate and fort he rest of us too, I am saying that including myself..........haha CLaire

amen

Father I also agree in prayer with Nina and Butterfly for her family's salvation, your word says that our house hold shall be saved and I thank you for that promise..Praise you for their salvation, it is a done deal! You are magnificent and are the only one who can save us from the enemy's plan. Bless you and your family Butterfly.... Claire

you can be sarcastic to the bone Dreamster.........it seems like you are cracking jokes while your ship is sinking.....!!!Good stuff I say,good stuff, keep the devil guessing! Father I thankyou for money coming His way right now in Jesus name, I know you hear my prayers because the prayer of a righteous man avails much and i am righteous only because of Jesus blood.........money cometh in the name of JEsus! I also pray against lack and break the power of any words of destruction or lack or poverty in D's life right now in Jesus name..Your word says "beloved I wish that thou may prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospers" YOUR WORD says we are to prosper and so I believe and release prosperity into this mans life in your name.........AMEN! Your needs are met in HIM, stop worrying and be thankful that His eye is on the sparrow! Praise Jesus for His bounty and grace and trust TRUST Him mate, if you need potatoes he will give you potatoes, if you need cash he will give you cash, if you need a warm bed, he will give you lots of blankets with the bed! You have health and air in your lungs, trust Him HE WILL MAKE A WAY WHERE THERE SEEMS TO BE NO WAY....... Bless you mate, Claire

wow, think God is using this real life story to shake me up and wake me up! I am praying about the man I am with but you know I really think that it takes time....sorry if others disagree here, but sometimes God allows you to go out with someone so you can see whether they are right for you..sometimes we want answers straight away, but in going out with this man I am with I am learning that I need to treat others with alot more care and respect than what I thought was required. Still not sure if he is "the one" but I do know he is a gentle soul who I like very much and love and am learning about how God wants us to treat Him in this situation. Anyhow getting off the track....my friend I truly believe love is a choice and that if you go out with a man (tree) look at what he does(fruit).........this will tell you whether he is the one for you......."you shall know a tree by its fruit"....... Bless you

Thanks so much for all your encouragement..... It has been difficult for sure.......I am very emotionally drained but will soak up on him and see what He says. Am going to church tonight and looking forward to hearing from him in a mighty way........ You know the whole time I have been going out with this man, I have been focused on him instead of JEsus..........I have met so many wonderful people on here who are really onfire for Jesus. WHat strikes me as even more encouraging is that half of them are men......(no offence guys)............I want to share inthe fellowship of others and am so blessed by all of this.............. I hope that GOd blesses you through my returning to the heart of the father as I have been blessed by all of you out there who have contributed to these posts.............. My heart has needed it for I have been in a bad way............... BUt I know my redeemer lives and I know He surely wants me to too! Bless you and will let you know how church went! Also too 'trueflight' will do that paper thing asap and you know if I hadn't have been through this relationship, I wouldn't have realised alot of wants I have and needs that aren't being met right now..........so thankyou, will do this surely and most comprehensively! haha

Thankyou so much mbstudent.......... I went to a hens night tonight of which I am a bridesmaid, then I ran over a possum (protected species over here)..coming home .....not good....... i could not stay to watch the love story movie they had as I would have been a mess................. I thankyou for this as I am about to retire to bed, but truly appreciated the prayer -and a strong one at that! Bless u heaps, Claire

Thanks True Flight, you always seem to make me cry..... you do have a strong gift I was crying the other day at how my BF hates makeup on me and I just love to wear makeup- so I have worn very little whilst I have gone out with him, I miss wearing makeup actually! You are a man I gather and have given me a very good word of encouragement from a man's persepctive which I sooooo appreciate because, my Dad said to me the other day that if my boyfriend loved me he would want to spend heaps of time with me. My pastor (a female ) keeps telling me that I am the one in the wrong and that I have been "high maintainence" all this has really hurt me, when all I feel I have done is try to love the man. I saw him this morning and I had to refrain from kissing him as I love him so much and he has been holding back soo much . When he kissed me good bye it was what I called a "cousin kiss" very tight and cold. I am sad you know because maybe I have been teh rebound girl for him and at one stage he was all love and hugs and kisses and now he is 'cold'... he has obviously been gossiping about me to his friends as one of them treated me coldly today and it really hurt. You see your message made me cry cause I was once that confident girl and now I am not confident. My pastor has I feel maybe tried to help me by telling me about what I can do to fix myself and thus the enemy has used this to make me feel like I am the soul one at fault and that I am defective in this relationship..... I spent $50 on really nice thai food last night to give him and he was too busy playing his game to eat straight away and so we ate 15 minutes after i brought it to his place and I sat on the couch waiting for him to finish his game and give me some attention as I had not seen him in over a week. I am disapointed that I am in love and well, it seems he isn't....... so i tried to feed the poor sap...........but i guess time will tell...... I am a great and mighty child of God -who might I add deserves to be truly loved.... God bless

Wowsers what an encouraging story! Wait on Him hey! :cute:

You have expressed what has been on my heart for years......... I am in australia and it is the same here where the church is totally family oriented. I went to a church service with my boyfriends daughter a few weeks back (it has been my first relationship in ten years after being single) and I was welcomed like I have never been before???? I really do believe that that many people are threatened by single people and that the church is being exclusive by being afraid of single people. I have also found that being older and in my 30s that the older I have become the more I have been pushed aside and well, realistically am too old for the young groups if you know what I mean........... I don't know what to say except you have spoken what has been on my heart for years and well, it is time we prayed and stood for Him to bring peace into this area, not only that for Him to give us all the desires of our hearts in this area........... C

Hey I know this is an after thought having written your dream out a while ago, however, wanted to encourage you, that I have had a cat who was very dear to me and I had to have him put down a few years ago, had him cremated and he sits up on my puter desk....in a box He was the first good friend that was very dear and close to me and alot happened, anyhow I would dream of him from time to time, still think of him especially now that I look back and compare him to all other relationships I have had with humans.....lol his has been the best friendship I have had, not to say my other friendships have been bad, but he was my pal...... Don't know much to say as I'm going through alot but wanted to say, be encouraged, dreaming of a loved one is sometimes you working out your emotions about missing them very much................ Hope this helps.. C

Hi all, I have prayed and I did what virtuous said and turned off the lights and phones etc and sat in my bed and talked to God.......I believe He said that love was a choice...........that I could choose this man or not based on what fruit I see in his life and mine.........things must change I believe for I have not been the best GF in fact I believe God said it could go either way and if I let Him take the wheel then this man may actually come round..........I'm just prepared for things to go HIs way and am drawing nigh to Him, not my BF for I transfered all of this from GOd to the BF. I believe GOd hs said love is a choice for a reason................when we look after animals and pot plants etc, they need care for them to grow, if they are neglected and not taken care of, or even fed or watered too much, it will hurt them......................this is what God has shown me........................love is something you take care of and you can lose it if you mistreat it and you can gain it back if you nurture it GENTLEY...............at the beginning of the relationship I distinctly heard from God and he said "be gentle with this man"............now I know and realise what he was saying............ I don't know if he is the one................all I know is, is I have not loved him with the love of God the way I should have, I have been pushy and demanding and have sinned big time with him and well, i have lead the way in all of this every step, and it is time to either allow him to break it off or to be patient waiting for his heart to heal............and I love him that much that I will wait on GOd first to do a miracle....................... Thanks everyone................i will keep you updated as to which way things go............. I am determined however to be free in Him and be of "good cheer"....... Thanks

i can't stop crying , thankyou and I will do what virtuous said-except it is morning...the sun will shine, but I will still do it.......... thanks

thankyou so much for this prayer, it blessed me and gave me hope just reading it............. bless you

Well, I am not sure how to take all of this............ When I first met this man he said to me _we are going to do great things for God together............................ This is what I would like, however, I would like a man who will support me in my vision that the Lord has birthed within me many years ago not the other way around..........so many women want to support a man in his ministry, but i want a man to support me in mine! Thankyou for your words, Cholette and Virtuous......I don't know if they have sunk in, I am really tired of alot of things in my life, singleness is one of them, but also too, I feel I have finally found a lovely man and that I have ruined things by trying too hard - not that this is not the man for me, rather that I have tossed him away by being smothering. I saw him today and it was a short visit and well, I really love him and believe that God has put him in my life, but that I have allowed the devil a foot hold by trying too hard..... I am really wanting to be wise, practical and use common sense. There are alot of men in the world and few in church.....is this why we are single still? Will men be accountable on judgement day for the wrongs they did and didn't do to women ....i wonder? Maybe I am a tad depressed but the truth is, I want to reach out for the things I desire and yes wait on the Lord, but not shrink back and passivley wait for Him, I think waiting on God is rather faithing on Him for the answer and I am trying to have faith and step out to receive all He has for me. For too long I have been passive..... Anyhow, I am going to go to a prayer meeting tonight where we will collectively pray and I know that God will make a way where there seems to be no way.......... Thankyou both so much, C

thankyou, the last scriptures meant all the more to me as they have been given to me many times (about the fast)..... God is good and faithful to me and I know that He is my deliverer and shield..........

Thanks so much, I was wondering, have you found that man for your life? It sounded like you had.....just wanted to know.... What you have said makes sense......i thought i had already understood God's love for me, but i think this is an eternal lesson......I just want to have a healthy relationship with a man have this dream fulfilled. I really do believe that this man is good, I have not had a revelation outstanding about him, but look at his character and see alot of good in him.....however I must let go and let God take over this and stop controlling things......which I believe is what God is saying to me that I have been doing, I have made this man a full time job and so I have decided to increase my input into a ministry that I was involved in years ago in media which is my calling......i have been fighting depression badly this week, but am really proud of myself that I am coming out of it alot stronger than what I used to.....I am not as crushed as when I was a young christian years ago with a breakup and well, I can see how God how God has shown me how to be cheerful in difficult circumstances.........very challenging indeed but I am surprising myself...... Thanks,

i think I get what you mean. There is wisdom in the counsel of many and all of my friends have said "back off" and basically I am going to let the chips fall where they may......God is in control of my life and I can't control this relationship. I so want it to work, but it is not going to work if I try to hard and squeeze the life out of it by pushing this man..... Thanks so much,

THankyou so much for taking the time to answer my request........ I am hurting pretty bad and feel God is yet again showing me that I have a fear of failure and rejection that is still deep rooted within. I have had so much ministry and am a very mature christian and should know better, however I have wanted a relationship more than the 'right relationship"....I am just so sad cause I feel that this man deserves a woman who will treat him well, so I have tried to do this thinking this was how to love with the love of God.........however I know I am trying to 'fix' his heart and this is God's job not mine. I do believe that he rushed in with me and made promises he was not going to keep and this flattered me-like talking about my being the one and feeling a stirring in his spirit about me and also talking about marriage.....i feel i held him to his word and thus felt too secure thinking there was nothing to develop.....at the start he kept telling me he loved me and I said not to trust 'feelings' but to wait several months before exchanging those words of "i love you" ....but he said it so much to me I felt that I should say it back and now I feel that i have spoken those words over my heart now and that indeed i am in love with this man.......... I am sad, cause I have had so much difficulty with relationships of any kind becasue of a very disfunctional upbringing - it has taken me all of 14 years to get over my past which is why i haven't been in a relationship for 10 years.........i have finally come to a place where i can have healthy female friendships but the male female one is all new to me and hence i feel i have stuffed this one up...... I am for the first time in love and like with a man and I feel I have killed this relationship by "being too full on" with this man........ I want to forgive myself but yet again I have stuffed up. To top things off my pastor said that maybe I will never be able to have a relationship with a man like this becasue it stresses me out too much........so then again I felt like a big failure at life.......... I am 33 and am tired of waiting for things to come along and really feel that if I sit around and wait for GOd that I might just say "no to the helicopter that passes me by............does that make sense??? I mean I don't want to hide in my home away from men and yet I don't want to force things either...........where is the balance in all of this? Anyhow, thankyou for this input, I will pray, however I know that God also uses people to help people and this to me is his hand of help to me that is moving on my behalf and others everyday. Thanks,

Hi all, I am wanting some help for a relationship I am in and would appreciate it if you would agree with me for deliverance and healing of my heart and give me some words of encouragment. I have done some things I am not proud of in my relationship with a man who is very loving and caring. WHilst he is not as mature a christian as myself, I feel I have smothered him and pushed him away. Thus he has backed off and I feel whilst we are still going out that he may break up with me if I continue suffocating him with my behaviour. I want the Lord's will in this relationship and it is the first relationship I have had in ten years thus my over attentive behaviour towards this man which he feels is my "pressuring" him to committ. I am all new at this but feel like a kid with a toy and am so happy to be in a relationship with a caring man who is sooooo nice it is not funny. The past two weeks I stayed at his place and we ended up fighting and well, it is not good. This is a man who I could see myself marrying and he has talked about this initially at the start of our relationship but since I have been "smothering" him, he has backed right off from wanting to talk to me about such stuff. I am so sad over this and would love to pray for favour with this man and for restoration as I do believe in my heart that I love him and that he could be the one for me..... He has been really hurt by women in his past and although I know I am responsible for certain things and for pressuring him, I also know he is reacting from past hurts also and this hurts too. What I want to know is how I can move the hand of God to save this relationship-if indeed it is His will to do so? I am so in love with this person and every time I do anything it seems to push him away. HE has also recently come out of a relationship last year and I wrote him a letter telling him that I thought he still had not gotten over her. To this he said he wanted to break up with me, then last week when I spoke to him about this he said he wished he had never written the email saying this to me......however since our couple of fights, he has backed right off and I feel as though I am losing his love....... What can I do to regain this lovely man of God? I am trying to pray him back but also I don't want to be in denial either.............. I sometimes feel it is so hard to cause he still talks to me about his ex girlfriend alot about how awful she was and I get jealous about it. HE also has an ex wife and two kids and so there is history there and sometimes I find myself crying as I am so overwhelmed by all of this...... I am so ready for committment....I am of the age now where I want to start a family and get married and well he told me the other day that he once thought of starting another family again so he could have kids full time (his kids now he only has shared custody every second weekend) but that he is now too old he feels......he is ten years older than me and I am in my 30's....this is sad cause when we first went out he said he would like to have more kids some day.... Maybe I am trying too hard, not sure how to behave with men as they are a different kettle of fish indeed and I don't understand why he feel s pressured by me at all except to say that I am loving him with all that I know to do and say and feel. Hope you can help. C.