I bet a lot of people notice when you dress nicer than usual, and put in an extra effort on your hair or appearance. Why they don't tell you is on them, not you. I've never been in a situation like yours, but I did have a really really really good friend I used to hang out with. He wanted us to be a couple, but I said I didn't want to. I did, though, I just told him I didn't because I knew he was still in love with his old girlfriend, which pretty much sucked. Besides, she was sort of my friend too. Now she's just being a b**ch to me, which is so unfair, because I never did anything to get him, and they're still together even! I can't believe how many times I sat by the phone, wanting to call him, hoping he'd call me, telling me they were done, and that all he wanted was me. He never did, and eventually I had to do something; I could ether tell him how I felt, or completely cut him out of my life. I did none of that, I just kept my mouth shut. Eventually the desires and illusions of him went way. Okay, it was when he tried to get with me while his girlfriend was out of the country. I totally lost respect for him, I mean, who would want a boyfriend that hits on other women? But now I don't know what's happened, and it sucks! Because I feel I've done the right thing, letting them be together, but whenever I meet them together, they dismiss me. When I meet him alone, we can talk and laugh like we used to. When I meet her, even come up to her and give her a hug, she just ignores me. That's why she's a b**ch to me, and I don't call people b**ches for no reason. Actually she's the only one I've ever called a b**ch. ANYWAYS, I hope in some wierd way, maybe you found this useful. Sometimes, all that is needed for someone to feel better, is for someone else to show their own life's sucky side.