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Our God is an awesome GOD, he reigns from Heaven above with Wisdom, Power, & Love, Our God is an AWESOME GOD!! - That song came right to me when I read your testimony! Father God you are so AWESOME! All the Glory to you Father! Thank you for blessing Christa & her family! HALELULIA!!!! We Praise your Holy Name! Thanks Christa for sharing, this too was something I needed to hear! Your blessing just blessed me! Thank you! Thank You Jesus!
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Praise God calledandchosen, your on the right path! Know you are not alone, we all fall short many times in our walk w/God. If you mess up, pick yourself back up the good Lord will never leave your nor for sake you! He is a loving God, he says to come unto him as we are, he's already working on you, in you and through you! Cholette - beautifully said! I will be praying for you calledandchosen!
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Blue504 - You are in my prayers! I know what it's like to feel real down, and hopeless hanging on by a thread. I had the weight issue too which for me always magnified everything else. My heart goes out to you, I will be praying for you. If you ever need to talk feel free to email me. I'm here for you and I'm praying for you! :bighug:
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Glory to God - that is just a beautiful testimony Temi! Praise God, He works in wonderful ways. I just love to hear praise reports! I love everyone here too, I have been so blessed words can't describe it. God is awesome! All you brothers and sister's in Christ here are awesome too! I pray God continues to bless this site and all his beautiful beautiful children here!
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Director Again!! I must be getting a big promtion or blessin
Lori replied to LovetoworshipJesus's topic in A Praying Place
Part 2 Now lets look at what she has laid out for you to reach your goals? Creating a daily task agenda that meets departmental needs and my approval. - Have you done this, if not - you need to get this done ASAP, if you don't know how ask another Instructor, or come up w/something and get your Directors approval. The internet has many tools and free things so use it. Demonstrating usage of the software applications on an instructual level. - If your having issues, go to your Director say these are areas I feel I need to improve (list problem areas) on, and this is how (give resolutions) I think I can achieve that goal. Do you feel this would be effective? Demonstrating full range and usage of the Klickers, preparing the programs in a more timely manner 2 chapters per day. Again same thing, show that you are improving, you can even send emails to show what you are improving or at least working on. And get the chapters done 2 per day, when you can up it get 3 done. If your having a problems identify what the issue is, and come up w/a resolution. Taking initiative to set a meeting to follow up and show progress of work load. No matter if a meeting is called at the last minuet you should always know where your at in your work load, if your not done you should be able to say when it will be done - remember she wants results and to the point answers. Schedule the meeting and bring detailed reports or whatever you need to do to show progress and work load. Do things right away, make notes for reminders and always follow up. Referring back to me for any other assignments and needs for the department. This should be easy, email her, it's documentation, keep a calendar and use it to follow up. Working with others in the team, when one on one training is not available to you. Make sure you search out all your sources to utilize to take advantage of this. If you are prepared for team work, when one on one isn't available you will always have your bases covered. If time mgmt is an issue, lists would help, make sure your organized. If you need more direction w/time mgmt you can always email me or post here, I know I would have suggestions and I'm sure others would too. Now lets look at what she closed with. You may read this post after you meet w/her again. But hopefully this will help you in the future. In all honesty I think she gave you some good things to think about and help you prepare for the future, so take them seriously. Now only you can answer these, but I put in a few things I thought would help based on her email. 1. What extra steps could I have taken? - You need to be proactive, take initiative, be prepared, and deliver work performance reports/emails something to show progress. 2. What lessons could I have learned sooner to avoid this? When asking for help, have a resolution. Make sure your following her instruction as she gave them and not to assume anything outside of that is acceptable (like when she found you alone rather than w/someone or a team) Make sure you have all your bases covered so you are not alone. Follow up in a more timely manner. 3. What personality traits or habits of mine might have aggrivated the situation? Check your attitude towards her. Taking things personally, and reacting in some cases unprofessionally. Though you can be strong willed/stubborn, respect the role of your Director, and understand she is your boss on the job. Don't allow you personal feelings to flavor your work performance 4. What more can I do to get the results? - well she said it for you and I said it in more detail toward the end based on her personality. Give results, problems - find a resolution. Keep your relationship professional, work in love, and give the rest to God. I know this is very long, but once I got going it just kept coming. I hope I haven't upset you. I've only shared what I believe will help and it's all meant to be received in love. Remember there will always be times of difficulty in our lives, and through each thing we must learn from it. When you have a hard time w/someone because you know they are evil or even if God has revealed things to you about them, it's not for you to be anger w/this person or allow that to cloud your judgment, she may be evil, but remember God loves all of us, and when he shows you these things he is also showing you that it's not the person at work here but the enemy working through them. Continue to pray for your Director's salvation, pray that God blesses her, pray he can repair or improve your work relationship, and pray that he reveals to you what you need to work on. You will come through this, it's a battle, but God has already one, you are being refined, because you have much bigger jobs ahead that will required this refinement. Trust the Lord, cast all this baggage onto him, let it go. You may feel you are hanging on by a thread, but if you do your part, you will come out on top. God knows the beginning and the end, and of course everything in between, you are his child, praise him for what is already done, praise him for his is doing mighty works in you. I think you will stay at this job, but you will come out victorious both in the natural and spiritual. You were meant to be here, God is working in your situation even when it doesn't appear that way. Breath sister, God is in control over your job, your parents, your future home on your own. Relax, let go and God's got it under control! I'm hope you received this well, I'm pumped up for you! Glory to God! Check it of your to do list, it is done! Maybe I'll write a book one day.... -
Director Again!! I must be getting a big promtion or blessin
Lori replied to LovetoworshipJesus's topic in A Praying Place
Part 1 - sorry my post was to long had to break it up! Ok, Lovetoworship Jesus, I would like you to prepare yourself to hear a response from a different perspective. It might come across harsh, but I promise you it's not meant to be mean, only in love and to see you conquer this issue. Please read knowing that this is from the perspective of a person who has been through a similar situation as well as the perspective of a person who worked in Human Resources, dealing w/many Employee issues. With that said you may recall a response I had posted a while back to your other post w/the issue you are having w/your director. I pray you receive this well. For starters I'm aware of the issue you have been going through w/your Director as of to date it appears you are still facing the same issues, perhaps even more so. There are several things that come to mind when I read your posts, though I have only responded once, however after reading this last post I do feel very impressed to respond again. I'm going to try and break down what I'm seeing from different view points, and hopefully the issue and your action to take will be clearer. When reading what your Director emailed you I must say she appears to have some very valid reasons for issues w/your work performance. Let's look at how someone who knows nothing about you (your relationship w/God, etc.) would see this. If I were the Dean and assuming I know not much about you, reading your Directors email would cause me to believe you are having performance issues, an inability to work well w/your Director, and what I call a Red Flag, that perhaps there is more of a problem here. While this may be the goal of your Director, in her email she appears to be doing her job; Outlining issues, bring up prior work performance issues that she has seen little or no improvement on, as well as making it clear that you appear to have an attitude w/o saying that. She also outlined to you specifically what she expects from you, and in her closing giving you points to work on to resolve the issue. She is your Director, and it is her job to monitor your work performance which she appears to be doing. So to her boss/the dean she is looking like she is doing her job and your not. I know that sounds rough, but based on this email that is what is being presented. With that said, this may very well be a tactic to remove you from your position, however if you don't give her a reason, she can't or at least it will be very difficult to do so if your performance is good. Now I'm not saying you are a poor performer at all, and I do believe you believe you are giving it your all. And you maybe you are, but this isn't enough for her. If you were doing your job the way she expects she would not have several instances in which you are not meeting her expectations, if infact what she states as issues are really what occurred. Now while we answer to God, and she may not be saved, she still has a job to do and just because a person isn't a believer doesn't mean they are always out to get you, or that they can't expect more from you. I'm not saying this women is right, I'm just pointing out that what she appears to be doing and documenting are professional and while she may throw in a bit of her personality, it doesn't mean she isn't doing her job, unless she in fact is making this stuff up. So unless her email is all lies, that there would be a bigger issue here, but I haven't seen you dispute what she says, other than you may not agree w/everything she said. So if what she is saying is the truth, it is time to step back and search yourself. You may recall from my last post that I said sometimes we as believers feel it's the non-believer's problem, when in some cases it's God working on us. I still believe that to be your case. I'm not there w/you, nor do I know your Director, I can only go by what I have read you post as well as what I feel impressed to tell you. I know my words my sound stern, but sometimes we need that to help us see clearly. In all your post it appears you are very angry w/this woman, and you even stated in a response you both are strong willed women, and that you didn't see her as being qualified for her job so that has been an issue w/you. Let me just say it doesn't matter if you think she is qualified, whether she is or is not is not the point. She is your boss, you have to respect her, and her role she plays. You do not have to like her personally, or condone her personal lifestyle, but you do have to follow her orders, unless she asks you to do something illegally or what you believe is wrong in the Eyes of God you should follow the direction given by your Director. It appears to me from your response you may need to be adjusting your attitude a bit when dealing and of course working w/her. The responses you gave to two of her points were completely unprofessional, and attitude rang loud and clear from the responses. You can't expect someone to be professional w/you if you are not professional w/them. It doesn't matter if you are professional most of the time or started out that way, you must remain that way all the way through. No don't get me wrong I'm not saying this women is a great Director, she may be an evil women and may not like you at all, she may want to get rid of you, but it does seem you have a role you are playing here too. I know that you love God, and that you are very blessed by him, and you are seeking direction from him. But sometimes when we are deep in something it can be very tough to see things clearly, or sometimes we do hear God's answer but we don't like it so we ignore it. I think this is a trial for you, one you are will come through blessed and highly favored, but there is somethings God is trying to show you to get rid of. And the longer you take to see that, the longer this trial will be. We know that God is continually working in us, on us and through us. He is always refining us, I like the example one pastor had used; were are like rocks, rough edges sharp corners, bumpy texture, but as God works on us he is smoothing it all out, so in the end we are a smooth rock. And that is what I see is going on w/you. Many children of God believe that when rough times come it's the enemy at work, but so we pray for the God to protect us, give us favor, remove the mountain, and while we should we also need to search ourselves, to assume it is always someone else causing the problem is like saying I'm perfect it can't be, it's them or this or that, or the enemy. Now the enemy maybe in full effect here, but it's not to say you are w/o fault. When I go through a hard time, I always look at myself first, I think of the scripture (I'm paraphrasing) to not point out the spec in someone else's eye when you have a plank sticking out of your eye. So I always think what am I doing wrong here, if indeed I am, because sometimes we do bring things on ourselves, after all we aren't perfect, but a work in progress. I'm saying this because I want you to really look at yourself and see what role you are playing in this situation. Are you harboring anger towards your Director? Because you see evil spirits in her, do you feel that is getting in your way of performing and respecting her job? Are you really giving your all to this job, and be honest w/yourself - I say that because sometimes when things are really crummy and we feel like we can't please someone we don't always give are best because we may feel, whats the point they'll just find something else to complain about w/me. Are you being too stubborn, and not doing it her way because you think your way is better? I think either you know the answers to these questions, or you need to ask yourself and if your being honest w/yourself you will start to see what you need to pray on and allow God to work on that area(s) in you. I hope I'm making sense here, and you can see it's gotten softer as I've gone on. With that being said, you are in this world not of it, if you hold down a job in this world you don't have to conform to the world, but you should always be operating in love. As it's been said before as well as in Christa's response, no job is perfect, there will always be people that are like your Director, or worse. To work well w/your co-workers, bosses, is known that's how it should be, but we let our personal feelings get in the way. And most everyone is at fault w/this most of there careers, after all we are human. However, I think this trial is shaping your for bigger plans that God has in store for you for your higher calling. I think you said you are a Prophetess, that's a big blessing and a big responsibility. That's gonna require some real humility, we know God has already blessed you w/this gift, but as I said earlier I think this is a refining process for you. And clearly the enemy is at work here, he doesn't want to see you keep advancing in your walk w/the Lord, he's hitting you hard, at your job. But remember this God gave you this job, don't let the enemy take from you, work on yourself through prayer and direction w/the the Lord and he will give you favor in this situation. No weapon formed against you shall prosper, but dont' let yourself be the weapon. Now let's look at your Director. As a person who works in HR, it's our job to read people. As a matter of fact we go further into training to learn how to read, understand and work w/people. This will be helpful for anyone in the workplace if they want to better there relationships and work the work place so to speak. There is an breakdown in understanding peoples personalities so you can work more effectively w/them. It's not anything really other than learning the persons personality and understanding how they receive information. I would be happy to email you the title of the book if you like. It is a secular book, but there is nothing demonic about it, Lola may even know exactly what I'm talking about since she works in HR too. Anyhoot, we know as Christians we should always be operating in love, do that and if you understand a person's personality you can work more effectively w/them. It's a personality profile: Dominant, Infulential, Supportive, Conscienctious. Everyone falls into one of these. Without giving a teaching lets just focus on your Director. From what you have said about her and reading her email she what we would call a "D" personality which stands for Dominant. While it's easy to think a lot of negative things about of Dominant person, this is a key behavior trait for most Higher management especially those successful in that role. So how do you deal w/her. She wants clean cut answers - to the point and wants results. She really doesn't care about much else, results, results, results. So when your Director asks you a question if you don't have the answer tell her when you can give her one, and then deliver. She's not gonna care about why, or how you got there, what happened in between, she just wants the answer. And when you say your gonna deliver you must deliver or this will upset her. To impress her you should always be prepared, and anticipate what she is expecting if it's ever unclear. It's also clear that she expects you to follow exactly what she says, anything outside of this, is not performing to her standards. She also expects you to do your job, and do it well w/out holding your hand. If you have a problem or issue she wants you to have a resolution already planned. So for example, if time mgmt is an issue for you, you can say your having troubling completing XX, but you think doing SS will help you manage your time better. She may not agree, but this will show your working on the issue, and then she will offer what she thinks is best, or she'll tell you ok. She wants you to be assertive, take initiative. If you respond to her outside of this it will make your relationship that much more strained. D personalities are not full of patience, so if your taking longer than she expects to do something (even if it's normal to take that long) she is going to get frustrated w/you and upset. If you read her response where she tellsyou this is very laborious, time consuming and exhausting for me etc.. she is saying in the nicest way she can that she shouldn't have to spell things our for you like this, that she has other things to work on and not hold your hand, she's frustrated and tired w/you. Her patience are limited. If you really take what I said, and respond to her according to her personality you should see improvement. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not taking God out of the picture here, I still expect you to pray, and pray on what I've said. But if you can get yourself to a place where you can forgive this person, just respect her as your boss, and deal w/her that will be effective for you. You will see God moving faster in this situation. Go to Part 2 -
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, I must say when I wrote my book to you I was praying you wouldn't be offended by what I said. When I saw there were responses I was actually shaking - so now I am relieved and , again and again. When I was going through my situation w/work I had other things going on too, and another Sister in Christ told me that the Lord told her to tell me to check my attitudes, I was like , do I have multiple personalities ? I knew what an attitude meant, but when I would look at my attitude I would encompass it as a whole, so I had to actually look the word up in the dictionary, and then I realized Oh-I do have different attitudes towards things. So now I always say I have to check my tudes . We know the flesh is weak, but Glory to God he is showing you what to work on. I noticed you said there are people you aren't going to get along with; you should be able to get along w/people - you don't have to agree w/them or condone what they do, but like you said if you remain professional and humble in the work place people will respect and you will get along w/them. The bible says we are to love one another, so when you see these unclean spirits, that's God also showing you that's not the person at work here, but the enemy. Praise God for the wonderful Gift he has given you - how awesome! I will continue to pray for you, and may blessing of favor and promotions be upon you! God Bless You!
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I have been trying to think exactly how to word my response, and still not sure as I type this. So please don't take offense to anything I'm saying, it's all meant in love. I agree w/what everyone is saying, but I really like what Lurdys pointed out to do in the natural. You and your Director may have a conflict on a spiritual level, and perhaps she doesn't like you and doesn't even know why -well we do obviously if this is the case. But while you are praying and giving this to God, standing in faith and on his promises it's important to try and keep a good working relationship w/your director. I get from your posts on this issue, that you two only deal w/each other when you have to. She maybe a very tough person to work for, she may have very high standards and even though you are doing a good job, it might not be good enough for her. If this is spiritual, and she doesn't like you she might even knit-pick about stuff just to ride you harder to have an excuse to write you up. Since she has written you up (the letter), there must be some validity to what complaints she has about your work performance (whatever they are exagirrated or not). Unless this letter is just complete lies, it might be time to look at yourself a bit. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying she's right and your wrong. But look at your attitude, even your attitude towards her. I've been where your at, my job I worked for 8 years I was always a steller preformer, my last evaluation I had I got an exceeds (the highest you can get), then all of sudden one day not very long after this eval the attitudes towards me from everyone if the office changed. I couldn't figure out why, I was the same person doing the same job (btw my career was in HR), I knew I was no longer wanted there, I dont know where this great shift came from, I was always a Christian, and they were not so go figure what the issue really was, I too believe it was spiritual. My boss couldn't pick on me for my work, because I did outperform everyone, it was so hard to go to work, and I was praying the whole time, standing on Gods word, so everyday when I went to work I told God I was doing my job as unto him, and prayed for Grace and Favor on the job. I did have grace and favor though it wasn't from my Director, it came from the higher ups, as well as almost all the managment staff who enjoyed and appreciated my work. But this didn't make the everyday any easier, I felt my director and two other co-workers wanted to get rid of me, but I knew it would take great work on there part because I was a great performer, I had the most seniority except one co-worker. Instead of praying to keep my job, I actually asked God to find me another one, though the people I worked w/were probably the ones that should be let go, I said they have families and it wouldn't be easy for them to find jobs, at this point I knew my experience w/God's help would allow me to find a great job elsewhere. And you know what God did answer that prayer, he found me a job making almost 3x's what I was making (and what I was making was a good salary) this was just like WOW, then I started that job, and I couldn't seem to please that boss either, so I thought what is wrong w/me, so instead of getting upset, I met w/my VP who I felt like I couldn't please, and I talked to her about what she expected from me, and how she felt I wasn't meeting her requirements. It gave me great clarity as he expectations where, she was the hardest boss to work for because her standards where so high, it wasn't that I was performing poorly, any other employer would've loved what I was doing, but she expected more out of me. Since I hadn't worked for a boss like her before, it was quite a transition. Needless to say God came through here (no surprise there), but this time all it took was me speaking to the VP (course I was praying and seeking God on this too). In the long run I turned out to be one of her most valuable HR staff members she ever worked w/those where here words not mine, she gave me a bonus for my hard work, and after I resigned to be a stay at home mom (I got preggers w/my 1st while working there) she had called me back 3 times to come work for her again. Now being away from the job I left where I knew they wanted to get rid of me, I can see I had a bad attitude - yes I performed my work extremely well, I knew I knew more about every aspect of each of our jobs than anyone in there, and I always had to help everyone get there job done and my own, and it irritated me, I usually worked 15 hrs days, on several occassions I worked uptil midnight - I was burned out and upset, but I couldn't see my bad attitude because I was busy looking at how well I did my job, and I knew it was also spiritual that they just no longer liked me or had an issue w/me and I was tired of dealing w/these people who where working w/the enemy, so I wasn't doing my part acting like a real Christian and show them love, I was too busy been upset. There are two folds to the reason of these stories 1.) Sometimes while we are working and doing our best on the job, the other areas that God wants us to improve on, we aren't seeing because we are just seeing that we are being attacked, but sometimes we can be apart of the problem, and not the solution. 2.)Sometimes God will remove us from a situation and it will be turned around and used for the Glory of God. I personally have seen people wrongfully terminated from there jobs, but in the end God turns that around for his purpose. And most of the time the person can look back and say, Oh - I see why God did that, but sometimes we don't see it as we are going through it. On the other side since my career was in Human Resources (HR) I delt w/everything from hiring to firing, all aspect of Employee Relations, and I have seen where people just don't get along w/there boss sometimes it their personalities, sometimes it's the boss's ego, and sometimes it is spirtiual conflicts. In almost all of these cases the employee really believe's in there heart they are doing the best job they can to the best of their abilities. And then you see the boss's (whether that's your supervisor, manager, director, VP who ever you report to) and you see where they have an issue w/the employee, most of the times it is a valid reason, especially when your putting it down on paper. Now please don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying you are a problem employee, or you don't perfom your work well, but like Lurdys pointed out if she wants you to do something blue and you think your doing something blue, it may in fact be turquiose to her. This would be a form of poor communication, which is also a result of a poor work relationship. While you seek God on how to deal w/this I would agree w/Lurdy about getting a real understanding from your boss what she expects from you. For example this letter she wrote you about you, what are the issue in there, do you disagree w/her complaints, have you addressed these particular issues sitting down w/her one on one to go over each. You may disagree w/what she is saying but if you sit down and talk to her and do it in a non-confronting way, as though you really are seeking her direction, you should understand what she truly expects from you and maybe she will start to understand why you did something one way and not the other, also keep in mind some bosses are particular how you do the job even if the end result is the same they may want you to do it their way and anything outside of that is wrong (stupid in most cases yes, but none the less we still have to obey our superiors). And try to build a good work relationship w/her, this could also open a door to witness to her. No matter where we work you will always have non-believers around you, and you will have to work w/them. I don't believe this is by accident she is your boss, perhaps God is showing you something about yourself, perhaps this is a test for you. A lot of times we as believer's think it's the non-believer's problem, when in fact in some cases God in working on us. And even times as we go through situations we hear from God, or from others that God has used and we hear what the person is saying, but it's just not that A-ha moment, we may actually see the results of the Lords work in a situation much later down the road. As in my case I didn't see what part of the problem I played in the first job I mentioned, it wasn't until about 3 years later that I realized my attitude was a big issue, and I think I had some pride issues at that time too, but I also believe God blessed me w/the new job that gave me a salary I couldn't have dreamed of in man's eyes, and I think part of that blessing was because I didn't want the other people in my office to not have a job, I knew they would have security if I left, and God removed me from the siuation that felt unbarable until the day I left. But the work wasn't done from the baggage I took w/me. So God in his wonderful mercy allowed me to see my anger towards them, even though I really had thought I forgave them, it was more where I asked God to forgive me for how I treated them. So w/all this said God is still working in this situation, and I know you know that, but I wanted to include some of my thoughts from the perspective of a person working in HR, and I also wanted to share w/you my story for your encouragement - How, Praise God, he works even though we may not see it while we are going through it. And while yes, we should pray and seek God as what to do, he doesn't always mean for us to sit back and wait all the time (I don't mean do it in your own strength either), sometimes we need to move in a situation, like taking the time to talk w/your Director (arrange a meeting w/her), if that is unsuccuessful you can go to her boss - using the chain of command if you still can't resolve issues w/your director, this isn't an unreasonable or un-Godly direction to go in either, and God will give you the favor and blessings. I get the feeling that you do want to keep this job, but have you asked God if this is where he wants you? Just a thought? I just wanted to give you a few of my thoughts, and they are my thoughts, though I did feel impressed to respond. I pray you receive this response well, as it is intended w/good intentions and love. I will continue to pray for you and your current job situation, and I ask in Jesus name that Heavenly Father you reveal to Lovetoworshipjesus what Your plans for her in this job is, and that you give her grace and favor on the job. Place in her Father to understand the role she plays and that you continue to use her in this job for Your Glory, Comfort her Father in this time, place peace and joy in her heart that it will be Your outcome for this situation, and that she may continuely rest in You and on Your Word. We know Father there will be times of trials in our lives, but you said to cast our burdens on you, so Father we cast Lovetoworshipjesus's burden of this job situation on You, and we know Father you already have taken care of the this situation, so we Praise you and thank your for Lovetoworshipjesus's testimony for her Job/Director situation. All the Glory to you Heavenly Father, in Jesus Name, Amen!
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Hi I was wondering if anyone could share some information on Soul Ties. I have heard about them, course never in church, but my only real understanding or rather information on it was that Soul Ties are formed if you have sex w/someone - out side of that I got nothing. So any biblical insight would be great! Thank you - be blessed!