jennifer11 0 Posted August 10, 2010 Hi everyone. I just need to vent something so here goes...My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for almost two and a half years now. I have been to doctors and naturopaths and they all say there is nothing physically wrong with me or my husband. All I have ever wanted is to have my own children, I even work in early childhood I love children so much!In December, I got my wish and got pregnant. Except I miscarried at 6 weeks It was sooo awful getting what I wanted and then just having it taken away so quickly. We're still trying, but so far nothing It's starting to get pretty depressing, month after month of disappointment, and also because it seems that everyone around me is getting pregnant and I'm not I was wondering if anyone has overcome a problem like this and could give me some advice?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gaiamaiden 0 Posted August 10, 2010 Hi hun, First of all im really sorry you had to go through what you went through xxxIn a way understand how you feel, me and my husband love children more than anything and we were trying for a year and it seemed like it was never going to happen. At one point I even considered that I may not be able to have children because Im quite overweight. I got upset alot because everyone around me was getting pregnant and I got angry because I saw all these young girls having children who didnt even really want them.So I sort of "gave up", we stopped trying to force it to happen and now I am nearly 9 weeks pregant.The best advice I can give hun is to relax and try not to think about it, I bet you have been told this by so many people but it is true, it will happen when the time is right I wish you all the best hun xxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted August 10, 2010 I'm sorry for your loss...there must be some good reason for how things have happened. You are in my prayer. Don't lose hope! Faith can move mountains Like Gaiamaiden said...IT will happen when the time is right.I'm not married or anything...but I know, in life, we end up getting what we truly want... one way or another, just keep believing. i've had miracles happen to me, xxxx All the best to you for your future xxxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted August 10, 2010 Gaiamaiden wrote:Hi hun, First of all im really sorry you had to go through what you went through xxxIn a way understand how you feel, me and my husband love children more than anything and we were trying for a year and it seemed like it was never going to happen. At one point I even considered that I may not be able to have children because Im quite overweight. I got upset alot because everyone around me was getting pregnant and I got angry because I saw all these young girls having children who didnt even really want them.So I sort of "gave up", we stopped trying to force it to happen and now I am nearly 9 weeks pregant.The best advice I can give hun is to relax and try not to think about it, I bet you have been told this by so many people but it is true, it will happen when the time is right I wish you all the best hun xxxThanks Gaiamaiden, that has made me feel better. I know exactly what you mean about all these young girls getting pregnant but not even wanting them. That has happened around me a lot too. I wish it was as easy for me as it seems to be for other people but I guess as they say patience is a virtue and it will happen when it's meant to happen.Congratulations by the way Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted August 10, 2010 ShadowGirl715 wrote:I'm sorry for your loss...there must be some good reason for how things have happened. You are in my prayer. Don't lose hope! Faith can move mountains Like Gaiamaiden said...IT will happen when the time is right.I'm not married or anything...but I know, in life, we end up getting what we truly want... one way or another, just keep believing. i've had miracles happen to me, xxxx All the best to you for your future xxxxThanks ShadowGirl715, that made me feel better Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sinenomine 0 Posted August 10, 2010 My younger sister was expecting to get pregnant for about 4 years, she went to fertile clinics but had no succeed, there was no real reason for her not being pregnant, so she began to think she would only be aunt, she adores my first child, but then suddenly she got pregnant and had a beutiful boy, after that she thought she would not be able to have another baby but after 12 years she got pregnant again and had a girl Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted August 10, 2010 Btw, My mother had a miscarriage too...before me...and I was actually born after 4 years of marriage! And I'm the eldest, with 3 more sisters and 1 brother lol! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted August 11, 2010 My Mom and I were very similar, and she had two miscarriages, one before my sister, and one after, then she had my brother and me. I think she had problems getting pregnant too, so I wish I could talk to her about everything but I can't because she passed away 3 years ago Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lavender 0 Posted November 22, 2010 this may be a stupid question as i am sure that u may have already though of trying it, but have u purchased an ovulation predictor? i am not sure where u live butt here in the states u can piuck one up at ur local pharmacy, and it tells u when ur ovulating and when ur chances are greatest at becomming pregnant during the month. I had an aunt who was trying unsuccessfully and with the help of one was able to get pregnant. maybe that could help? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nadira 0 Posted July 20, 2011 Hello honey, I feel deeply for your situation. I'm not a mother or not even married, but i can fathom the exact fatigue that can stem from striving for something endlessly without any result in sight. All I can say that if the doc said there's nothing medically wrong with either you or your hubby, then you're going to have kids. Maybe you already are aware of this, but still I'd suggest you try again when you're "right that time" in your menstrual cycle.Cheers and keep hopes high! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smorkle 0 Posted July 20, 2011 i think most people already know this but jennifer is pregnant and is expecting!!!!!!!!!! she will be due shortly i believe! can't wait to see pics!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nadira 0 Posted July 20, 2011 WOW!!! Congrats, Jenifer! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted July 20, 2011 Hey thanks guys I am booked in for an induction for Sunday 8am (aahhh only four days from now!). Apparently baby is not putting on as much weight as she should, so they want to get the ball rolling and get her out. Her stomach measurement a week ago was on the 80th percentile and now it's on the 20th so she has dropped quite a bit. I am a bit worried to be honest, but I heard her heartbeat this morning and it sounded good and strong, and she is still moving quite a bit which is good. So I guess I'll be meeting my baby in less than a week!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Guest Posted July 20, 2011 Awesome! I hope you have a speedy and painless deliver Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
elfinshadow 0 Posted July 20, 2011 Oh my! Congratulations, jennifer!! I'm so happy for you, dear!! You deserve all the happiness in the world!! Take care of yourself!! Really wonderful news Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiddly Winks 0 Posted July 20, 2011 I'm happy to read that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lea75 0 Posted July 20, 2011 Good luck for Sunday hun. Think on the positive side, if the hospital were overly worried about your baby they would induce you immediately, not make you wait. Think positive and stay strong. You will be in all our thoughts and cant wait to see a pic of you both Hugs to you xxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gaiamaiden 0 Posted July 20, 2011 AWWWW hun i cant believe you are going to see your little bundle of joy soon, try not to worry hun, the docs will keep their eyes on you x you will be fine. I will be thinking of you xx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks for the kind words everyone I am excited, nervous and a wee bit terrified all rolled into one!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lea75 0 Posted July 21, 2011 I think we are all like that when its time for your baby to arrive Remember to relax, this is one of the most amazing experiences of you life. Not long till you can have a cuddle with your baby!!xxxxxxxxx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Agne 0 Posted July 21, 2011 Congrats! OMG I imagine how happy you are! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chay 0 Posted July 21, 2011 thats nice! cant wait to see for the pics jen! ill be praying for you for a safe/easy delivery! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted July 22, 2011 I was hooked up to the monitor for about 25 minutes today, to check baby's heart rate and movements and all is good!! The midwife kept saying over and over again "this is really good" so I was pleased. Baby moved about 11 times in the first 10 minutes, and I guess that was a good sign Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sinenomine 0 Posted July 22, 2011 So happy to read this, waiting for more news Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hannahbananaa 0 Posted July 22, 2011 hi jen,im 29 right now and the pressure is on for me to get pregnant, especially since i just got married. its just that some people have a harder time conceiving than others. i know lots of women who find it difficult to get pregnant. and the hardest part is to have to explain to other people why you dont have children yet. i know that they dont mean any harm in asking, but it get tireson after a while.im not trying yet, but i hope that when i do my body will be ready for itive heard from alot of people that you need ot relax. because the moment you dont expect it you will get it. keep trying hun and in these hard times dont let go of that love with your husband. i hope all will work out for you, you are in my prayers Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hannahbananaa 0 Posted July 22, 2011 ok.... so i didn't read all the posts. was wondering why people were talking about a baby on your wall and here i am reading your posts about you having a hard time..anyway. God bless will pray for you and the baby that all will go well Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DarkNite 0 Posted July 22, 2011 Congratulations Jenni ... IAM SO HAPPY for you ... you deserve all the best in the world ... have a safe delivery dear ... now iam trying to have my 2nd baby after a miscarriage in January ... wish me luck hun Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted July 30, 2011 Ok so my little princess has arrived! I had her at 4.01pm Monday the 25th, she weighed 7 pounds 3 ounces and we named her Katherine Mary after my Mom. The induction itself was pretty horrible, actual labour didn't start until midday Monday, but once it started it lasted for a mere four hours. The induction was so painful I had an epidural and so didn't feel a thing of the actual labour!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hannahbananaa 0 Posted July 30, 2011 so happy for you hun!!!! im sure theres nothing like being a mother praying for you and your babys continued good health Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CharlotteLouise 0 Posted July 30, 2011 Awwww congratulations Jennifer!!! I didn't even realise you were expecting a baby , it shows how much attention I pay sometimes but I hope you are both doing fantastic and that you're enjoying your precious little girl! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
myladyyawo 0 Posted July 31, 2011 Congratulations Jennifer! I'm sure your doing the most wonderful job as a new Mommy! Wishing you the most happiest of moments with your baby girl! Cherish every moment because they grow up sooo fast! xx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer11 0 Posted August 3, 2011 Thanks for the kind words everyone! Here's a pic: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gaiamaiden 0 Posted August 3, 2011 OMG!!! Congrats hun!! (((massive hugs))) your baby is GORGEOUS! XXXXXX Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chay 0 Posted August 3, 2011 congrats jen!! she is soo adorable!! like sara said "Cherish every moment coz they grow up sooo really fast!" welcome to the world baby Share this post Link to post Share on other sites