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I've been so busy I haven't had a chance to read this thread...great article, anyone considering marriage should read it first.... Virtuous, you're being generous - when I get married, the guests can pick up dinner gift cards from the church lobby - a choice of Sizzler, Red Lobster, Olive Garden or the local BBQ!! Ok, it would be nice to be there with them at some point...it might be better to get married one weekend then have the reception the following weekend....
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Oooooooohhhh!!!!!! Ok, well still the 2nd half of what I stated above still applies...I personally don't think it's a good idea to outline the way in which I would like Him to respond - actually, I've tried that with no success... But I have asked Him that regardless of how He does it that it be in a way that I know could only come from Him... Now having said all of that, God usually does show me things through dreams but I think that's because He has my undivided attention when I'm asleep (or in the 3am-5am timeframe when my mind is rested and cleared of the 'stuff' from the previous day He'll wake me and give me a revelation), when I'm awake it's easy for me to miss things because my schedule is usually very busy...
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I'm in agreement with the comments above that we have the right to ask. The Bible tells us that we can ask for anything: Matthew 18:19 “Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven. Matthew 21:22 And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive. Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. James 4:2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask. So I think it's established that we have the right to ask. HOWEVER, I do think that we have to be careful in how we ask Him to respond. That to me is limiting and God doesn't have to answer that part of a prayer. Often times He will because He is a gracious God, but He knows best and His ways are not our ways. Therefore, if in His omniscience, His decides the best way to bless us is different than what we requested, we should be thankful because He sees/knows things that we have no clue about (and may not in our lifetime). When He works, his blessings are woven in such a way as only He can do - there are other people/situations who are used in being a part of the blessing and/or the blessing often has far reaching impact to other people, areas, generations, etc. So an attempt to outline how God is to speak to us is to me a form of control/manipulation and limits God who cannot/will not be limited. Let's not attempt to box Him in (that's a futile effort anyway)... Also, I think that we have the right to ask, but we also have to be careful that what we're asking is with a submittive heart that recognizes that what we ask may not line up with His will for our lives. He may not answer that prayer at least not in the way that we had originally hoped, He may work with us to show us why the prayer won't be answered whether it's because of something we need to do/not do or He may just take the desire out of our hearts. Again, He knows best and wants the best for us....
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Thank you all for your support. Please hold my husband in prayer. I don't want him to kill himself or anything. He's told me that he would do that. So, please pray for him too. Thanks everyone. Christa - That is great news! One comment thought...please make finding a Christian counselor your new top priority. You've admitted that you're depressed and your final statement quoted above suggests that you're still vulnerable (maybe co-dependent) and may be thinking emotionally at a time when you have to think rationally. You need now to focus on you and Violet and you need an objective place where you can go to talk about your issues/fears/anger/questions and receive assistance to process through these things as well as receive the tools that you need to cope and move forward in an emotionally healthy way. Now of course we'll pray for your husband and I don't want to suggest that his suicide threats aren't real (I pray that's not the case), but I will share with you that over the course of my separation/divorce, my ex threatened suicide, murder (mine), broke into our home (that's when I got the restraining order, should've done it earlier looking back), claimed he was bipolar, claimed he had a physiological chemical imbalance, claimed he had a brain tumor, claimed he had heart palpitations, and claimed he had an ulcer (ok, that one turned out to be true). All of these statements were made in an attempt to manipulate me emotionally and make me go back to him. The intent was to make me feel guilty for 'causing' these things to happen to him (of course, he bore no responsibility for any of it). Counseling will help you discern what is real versus what is manipulation and will help you understand the psychological/emotional process that your husband is going through so that you can anticipate his actions and respond appropriately to a given situation....
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Hi Christa - I will keep you all in prayer. I want to add one thing and I hope you receive it in the manner that it is meant, I only say it from having been there....what you experienced today is the cycle of abuse. The abusive spouse after an incident will be on their best behavior for a short period and become more like the person that you fell in love with and enjoy. Unfortunately, that is often a facade and the current person resurfaces over time, usually during a moment of stress/pressure that they can't handle. Don't allow yourself to become vulnerable and entertain a reconciliation at this point, not after two weeks. God may not want you to divorce him or separate permanently but God also doesn't want you nor your daughter (and actually nor your husband) to live in an abusive environment devoid of peace, kindness, love, joy, self-control, patience, gentleness, goodness and faithfulness. You cannot base a reconciliation on a PROMISE to do better, you absolutely have to wait until you see a solid, significant, SUSTAINED change in your husband's behavior (i.e., like for a minimum of 3-6 months) before you even consider living with him again whether part-time or full-time. You have to be confident that you and Violet will be safe and two weeks is not nearly enough time to establish that. Have you found a counselor yet? I know alot has been going on but please, please, please try to get a counselor, someone who isn't in the situation and who can help you process through the issues that you face. If your husband hasn't sought counseling or some other form of intervention, it doesn't make sense to discuss a reconciliation at this stage because he hasn't acknowledged a problem, hasn't determined the root causes of his issues so that he can address them and be healed of them, isn't equipped with tools to handle and prevent the behaviors and he hasn't been tested through real life situations that show that he can keep his cool under pressure. With this being the case, why would you want to put your daughter in that situation again? Again, I apologize if I sound harsh, just want to be sure you've thought this through soberly and not emotionally....
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Ok, Mark between you and Cholette and me listening to Donnie McClurklin singing "Stand" now, the Kleenex company is making a ton of money from me today.... Praise God for His faithfulness and blessings to you brother for not wavering in your faith and pushing through this issue!! I admire your tenacity and ability to persevere for TEN years when it didn't look like anything was happening or that God was there! May the Lord richly bless you and keep you! God is good!!!
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ok, between reading your testimony and listening to Donnie McClurkin's Live in London recording of "I Will Trust You, Lord" has just pushed me over the edge in tearful but joyful praise - will have to remember to read these at home, people at work think I'm having a moment... (don't worry, I'm taking a legitimate break) Praise You Lord for your provision, you continue to amaze me! You are awesome and more than worthy to be praised not because of what You do but because of who You are! Blessed be Your name! Just leaving one of my favorite psalms of thanks: Psalm 145 A Praise of David. 1 I will extol You, my God, O King; And I will bless Your name forever and ever. 2 Every day I will bless You, And I will praise Your name forever and ever. 3 Great is the LORD, and greatly to be praised; And His greatness is unsearchable. 4 One generation shall praise Your works to another, And shall declare Your mighty acts. 5 I[a] will meditate on the glorious splendor of Your majesty, And on Your wondrous works.[b] 6 Men shall speak of the might of Your awesome acts, And I will declare Your greatness. 7 They shall utter the memory of Your great goodness, And shall sing of Your righteousness. 8 The LORD is gracious and full of compassion, Slow to anger and great in mercy. 9 The LORD is good to all, And His tender mercies are over all His works. 10 All Your works shall praise You, O LORD, And Your saints shall bless You. 11 They shall speak of the glory of Your kingdom, And talk of Your power, 12 To make known to the sons of men His mighty acts, And the glorious majesty of His kingdom. 13 Your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, And Your dominion endures throughout all generations.[c] 14 The LORD upholds all who fall, And raises up all who are bowed down. 15 The eyes of all look expectantly to You, And You give them their food in due season. 16 You open Your hand And satisfy the desire of every living thing. 17 The LORD is righteous in all His ways, Gracious in all His works. 18 The LORD is near to all who call upon Him, To all who call upon Him in truth. 19 He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them. 20 The LORD preserves all who love Him, But all the wicked He will destroy. 21 My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD, And all flesh shall bless His holy name Forever and ever.
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Witnessing to my mom today-please pray she will accept Jesus!
lola21st replied to newleaf's topic in A Praying Place
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Man brings a loaded gun to the Obama town hall meeting
lola21st replied to jjp708's topic in A Praying Place
Amen, jjp708! I was praying about something similar this morning, just how the way that the pressures from the current recession seem to be giving Satan a foothold in so many lives - families falling apart but worse, the number of murder-suicides seems to have escalated in the last year - family members killing their families, spouses killing spouses, parents killing kids...it's crazy. The current environment is playing a role as well in this area as well, it's just another manifestation of the same dynamic... Thanks for raising the need to intercede, will do! -
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why can't I log on to the misasherwood website?
lola21st replied to Delightful soul's topic in Help & FAQ
Until the link is repaired, please use the following links: http://www.heartsongministry.com/index.html (contains Mia's teachings, dream dictionary, etc.) A direct link to this dream website for folks who are only able to reach the website by using search tools or when when a topic update notice is sent to their email: /forum.htm Hope this helps and we appreciate your patience! -
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Going on vacation again!! for the weekend
lola21st replied to LovetoworshipJesus's topic in A Praying Place
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Daughter's friend's Dad Said something bad to her
lola21st replied to newleaf's topic in A Praying Place
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I'm in agreement with the advice above. Normally I would say to start looking for another job and leave when you get one, but in this instance where you know the DA is onto him and you know he's guilty I would leave asap, don't stick around to see things play out...unfortunately, as HLB stated, you could get caught up in the indictment. Again, this is another situation where you have to think about your little one. I know it doesn't help her for you to be out of work, but it also doesn't help her if you're caught up in legal troubles that could lead to severe results or something on your record that makes it harder to get jobs moving forward. Please take this one to your prayer closet tonight and let the Holy Spirit direct your next steps...will keep you in prayer as well!
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