Cholette

What type of things did you see differently in him that caused you to go back after the separation? Was there a period of time where counseling was done...marital counseling?

Just remember to walk in the absolute best you can in love. You may even want to send encouraging words around to the other family members so that there will be agreement at this celebration. The worse thing ever is to have disunity at the party because then it will be felt and it won't go well. We can't forget why we are having this celebration in the first case...your dad. There are MORE with you than with them and all of you who are in agreement have the power to make this the best celebration ever, even though there were drama behind the scenes. I can't wait to hear the follow-up on this one...be at peace and I will be praying as well.

Ok, this is how I would handle it. Of course you do all of this in love and without vengeance, but I would let them do absolutely EVERYTHING...which includes the clean up. At this point, you are an "attendee". When people try to control a situation, they take on EVERYTHING. So you go to the party and celebrate the way you desire and then you leave. Taking over things mean that you are responsible for everything...not just the fun and easy parts. I would do absolutely NOTHING except for celebrating...especially since everything is based on a lie anyway. This is horrible, but yes, continue to pray for them because it's obvious that they are miserable.

Hello! I feel for your situation and I know what you are going through from a certain perspective. Your situation is fixable, but it will call for HONESTY. I believe that when you are friends with someone, there must be honest conversations so both parties will understand each other. In your situation, I believe that it's up to you to draw the line in what the two of you discuss. If the only conversation that bothers you is about your friend's view on the church and ministers, then you can say that you would like to steer away from that conversation since you do not wholeheartedly agree with their position. In friendships, we have to be gracious and merciful because we are speaking about two imperfect beings coming together and fellowshipping. You have to decipher which conversations bear fruit in you relationship and stick closer to those. If you have a person that can have a healthy debate and hear another side of a topic and it end positively, then that is even more the joy. In your situation, I believe your friend's pain is speaking volumes. Being a person myself who has suffered Church Abuse, it can definitely skew your perspective. If you feel that you can show some mercy until you have that conversation, then show it. If your relationship is in a place where it's too one sided and they can't honor your stand on not wanting to talk about it, then you have a right to move on to bring about peace in your life. I recently let go of a friendship I had with someone for over 25 years because I no longer had the wherewithal to handle their selfishness. I reached my limit and I realized that this person was taking from me more than they were giving. I know the season that I'm in so it requires for my spiritual tank to be filled a lot more often since I'm pouring out more in ministry. Try talking about steering away from that topic at first and if it works, stick around...maybe you have the answer to help them through this pain they are experience. Pray for them and ask God for his heart towards them. Maybe if your perspective of the person changes, then that could be your answer as well. I hope this helps. Blessings!!!

Amen, I'm praying too!

Praying for you Lori!!

Praying Lori!!! Be at peace....those that are with the parents (Heavenly host) are more than those who want to do evil (demonic forces). God is faithful!!!

Ohhhh, my favorite subject...relationships! First of all my friend, you do NOT have the gift of singleness. If you did, you would be the first person who knows. You would know based on your lack of desire for marriage and/or if God has spoken to you about being single. Your mother is seems to have her own issues with men and marriage and is trying to put that on you and your Pastor, since she feels she's called to singleness, is using your inability to find a good match for yourself to say that you have "the gift". I would put off the relationship that you are building with the young man...not because he may have twisted motives or anything, but because I believe this is a season for you to really connect with God. The fact that you are feeling lonely is an indication that you are not experiencing the fulfillment of God. Spend time developing intimacy with Him. It's amazing what God will do within you and allow Him to be your Matchmaker...He's the best at it because he actually created your future husband.

Well, I personally don't believe that the size of the celebration determines the size of the sacrifice. I believe that you can do something on a smaller scale and it mean the same. Since you are the one that may have to handle the charges, you should be the one that determines the size of the celebration. I feel it's a beautiful example of love that your father has shown your mother. People don't have that type of stamina in relationships anymore. On the other hand...if your sister in law wants to fit the bill and put all of the blood, sweat and tears into the planning, then let her do so...hehehehe! I pray you all have a wonderful time, no matter what!!

Yes Lord!!! Beautiful testimony. We have to know our authority and use it because everything outside of the word of God must BOW to authority of our covenant through Jesus Christ. I love it...praise God!!!!

Oh man! I will pray for them. That is absolutely horrible

Pinterest is a great place to go for ideas. I know our children's ministry director goes there and she always has creative things for the children.

Amen!

I will be praying for you. Just know that sometimes dreams can give you a exaggerated version of the real thing. If God is showing you something that is to come, he will never cause you to not have peace or give you a reason to be fearful. It's for information so prayer can change the way things turn out. Keep your faith!!!

She's doing that now, but she will need you when that spirit is completely gone. She can't see straight now...she doesn't know what she wants now.

I will be praying for Jordan. What came to my mind while reading this is that it is a witchcraft spirit that she's attached to. That thing needs to be broken around her. I will get my prayer team involved...once she's freed, she's going to need a friend Destine...so use this time to pour into her and bring her back to life again.

Give her uncommon favor Lord!!

You are welcome!!!!!!!

It's time for her to go Shan. The thing about this is she is abusive and is abusing her stay there. Yes, God may have told you it was okay for her to live there, but the thing is she had choices along the way and it is apparent that she chose to become demanding and disrespectful in YOUR home. I think that your Christian witness is compromised by allowing someone to come into your home and disrupt the peace. Don't allow her manipulative ways to keep you at bay and stagnant from making the right decision. You should give her a 30 day notice (or whatever your state says to give a renter) to be out. God never intends for us to be live outside of the way he would treat us. We always use the quote "what would Jesus do?" in the context of how we treat others, but never use it in the context of how others should treat us. What would Jesus do? He wouldn't manipulate you or put those types of demands on you as she has done. He wouldn't throw the "Christian" card at you just to keep you from telling the truth. What Jesus would do is keep the peace and bringing everything back into order...like going through the temple and flipping over tables, reminding people that His House will not be utilized or become a place of manipulation. Let's get the ball rolling...she must go! Get your house back in order. IMHO...

Absolutely!! Pray for her...she is a worship leader and the amount of spiritual turmoil she is experiencing may keep her so focused on self that she can't be cordial. Is it right? No way, but I can understand because I used to be a worship leader and I'm an elder over the worship ministry in my church now and I see first-hand the attacks that are on the leaders, as well as the team. I would reach out and say hello to her...you never know what she's faced against. What if people are treating her wrongly and you are on the receiving end of that? There could be a plethora of things that could cause her interesting reactions to you, but the way to overcome that is to show Love. 1 Cor 13 says that Love pays no attention when wrong is done...love on her...that's probably what she needs anyway. Blessings!!!

WOW, I love to hear about God caring for those little things. It's his way of saying that he sees and understands. He saw your heart in the whole situation. You still did for this woman, even though she wasn't honest and is quite selfish. He shows up at the knick of time...gotta love how God does things!!!

In this instance Exo, you will need to continue to pray and cover your husband and his mind. I've been in your shoes before, as it pertains to being in a church that was teaching questionable doctrine. The difference between you and I was that it was just me. I made the decision to leave and I didn't have anyone to consider. It's tough, but it's not impossible. God doesn't want you there any more than you don't want to be there so he will move quickly!! I'm in agreement with you.

Hello! If you had just met him and you were just friends...meaning that no one had any love interest, I would say that it is fine that you are friends while he is walking out his divorce. Now that the two of you are attracted to each other, you should not pursue a "friendship" becaue it seems that emotionally you have moved past that. You should wait until his covenant is completed from his wife before pursuing anything else. You should still pray and I will tell you why. As recent as 2012, he made a quick decision to marry someone that he didn't know. This leads me to believe that he needs a little help in discerning God's wisdom in a situation. I would as God to open up your eyes to see and to give YOU the wisdom you need to move forward or not to move forward. Not only pray for your ability to receive wisdom, but for his as well. God is doing some good matchmaking this season, but so is the devil so I would as that you really think with the heart of God and not just your own. God is with you and he won't let you fail. His ways don't always feel good, but be open and ready to embrace whichever way he leads. Blessings...

Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do regarding your grown son. You can give him advice, but ultimately the decision he makes will be his own. He could be setting himself up for something that he cannot handle, but I will say that prayer changes things. The best thing you can do for that situation is pray behind the scenes. Sometimes with our children, the more talking we do, the more it pushes them to do what they want. I have the motto that silence is golden...especially when we can tap into the power of prayer. The young lady has had a tortured past and is probably looking for something to numb her from all of the hurt she incurred. She may not listen either because young ladies these days seem to feel empowered when an older man is attracted to them. She's looking for a male figure because of the rapes and mental issues she's been confronted with. Prayer is KEY in this situation. I hope this helps...I will help you pray.

I will pray...I'm not sure I understand your explanation, but nevertheless I am praying for your situation...